support for male survivors of Domestic violence
A safe space for men who have experienced abuse to get help
Las Cruces, NM
You deserve a healthy relationship.
We’re here for you. If you’re in a toxic or codependent relationship, or if you are stuck in abusive patterns with your partner, it can be hard to get out. It can be even harder for men to get support for domestic violence. Our groups support you as you take the steps you are ready to take towards a healthier self that can have healthier relationships.
1 in 7 men will experience abuse in a relationship
One of the most common myths about domestic violence is that men cannot be the victim. Regardless of the gender of the victim or abuser, domestic violence is the same.
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Patterns of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over another partner in an intimate relationship.
It can take the form of physical violence, emotional, verbal, or sexual abuse.
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Withholding approval or affection to punish you
Criticizing, ridiculing, or yelling
Taking away your car keys or money
Threatening they will leave you or force you to leave
Threatening to hurt you
Depriving you from your children when angry at you
Threatening to take the children and disappear if you leave
Hurting your pets
Harassing you about affairs they think you are having
Manipulating you with lies and broken agreements
Destroying furniture and breaking things in the house
Waving a weapon in a threatening way
Aggressive child transfers
Hitting, kicking, shoving, or throwing things when upset
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We acknowledge that men are far more often the perpetrators of domestic violence, are in a much less vulnerable position than women, and that there is not enough support for women survivors. We also believe that domestic violence happens within a cycle: Hurt people hurt people, and that this begins often in our childhood. Our focus is on helping men heal, so they can do their part to break the generational cycles, and show up as better partners, fathers, and men with a healthier masculine identity. If you are a woman in a situation of domestic violence in Las Cruces, we recommend contacting La Casa, or the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
Affordable group classes:
@ Dwell Yoga Las Cruces, NM
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How can we release deep tension and trauma stored in your body? This is a trauma-informed class to help you safely do this work. Dr Ryan Bemis will teach you simple mantras, movements and breathwork to incorporate into your journey towards balance. These exercises will prepare your myofascial fascia and nervous system to reset and release in the form of a gentle shaking. Acupuncture will be offered as an optional final touch, with a guided meditation leading you into a place of inner peace. Kundalini is the yoga of awareness, and this class is designed to help you on your path towards self-realization. All levels of experience in yoga and physical ability are welcome. Dr. Bemis will be available to offer you a free consult, as well, if you are interested in learning more about getting acupuncture.
Online
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Tension and trauma can lurk deep within our muscles and nervous system muscles, and can contribute to our emotional highs and lows, and impact our entire health. Our crazy world leaves us with pain, depression, anxiety, overthinking, difficulty focusing, fatigue and autoimmune illness.
How can we safely and gently learn from, work with, be with your big & powerful energy, and at the same time release old stories we cling to so we can be our most resilient self? How can we hold space for ourselves, and everyone else in the crazy world, as we feel the feels of up and down, all the intense and subtle, sometimes even overwhelming energetic, mood and emotional states in between?
At this online, workshop, Crossroads Acupuncture will raise funds for our Barefoot medicine movement in Guatemala, where we work with survivors of genocide. Donate whatever you can: $10 or more, to support the modern day heroes we support through our non-profit organization. Facilitated by Ryan Bemis, you’ll be step-by-step instructions in Trauma and Tension Release Exercises (TRE).
You’ll leave with new tools for you to safely co-regulate your nervous system through movement, breathing, and stillness on your own, on a regular basis. Most people experience deep relaxation, feeling grounded, and increased mental clarity.
We offer this as a trauma-informed, non-judgmental space. You may log in anonymously if you choose to do so, or keep your camera turned off during the exercises.
This class will be offered online with a zoom link provided prior to the class.
Are you feeling shook up by the crazy world out there? This workshop is designed for you! Learn more…
But my partner never hit me…
Over 38 million men will suffer psychological aggression from an intimate partner at some point in their life (CDC). This is also domestic violence, and can cause serious depression and posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD). We are here to support men in our community to break free from an abusive relationship, and recover from the lasting effects of trauma.
you can learn how to manage stress, anxiety and PTSD
You deserve healing. And you don’t have to remain a victim forever. But the Post Traumatic effects of domestic abuse can last a lifetime. Our groups offer activities like meditation, breathwork and acupuncture, to help you learn how to manage stress, anxiety, depression and PTSD. No matter what you are going through or have been through, your body, your brain, your spirit and your emotions can heal. In our group, we approach all healing with trauma-sensitivity.